Expect Conflict

Conflict. We know it will always be there, yet we act so surprised when it pops up.  We collectively roll our eyes and sigh in frustration, or even defeat.  Often we fight back, but rarely do we take the time to consider the proper field for the battle.

This Sunday one phrase from the sermon stuck with me:

Our deeds show who we are.

We are often fighting a battle to be strong and independent while our lives are significantly impacted by culture, including circumstances and expectations which often ask us to submit and fall in line.  At least, it can feel that way, and sometimes you just want to fight back!

We might blame the community.  

We might blame our husbands.  

We might even blame ourselves for getting into the mess to begin with and then vow not to bother getting involved again.

Sound familiar?

Conflict can push us beyond who we are, or at least who we want to be.  What we need, is to start expecting conflict.  Expect to disagree.  Expect not to be heard.  Expect to me misunderstood.  Expect that others are not always going to recognize you as the strong, independent, expert that you are.

Recognize that there will always be conflict when people come together!  That does not mean we should not stop trying.  Conflict resolution is the only way we will learn anything from each other, and the only way to bring us closer together.  We are strong and independent, and we need stand strong for each other, not against each other.

What do you see happening in your community that represents the strength and independence of those around you?  Feel free to post links!

~ Tia Sunshine